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So maybe you do want to write your own vows after all. There are many books, websites and random people who will give you advice, rules, outlines, and other information about putting your vows together.

But you don't have to listen to anyone.

Your vows, like your ceremony, should reflect who you are, as well as your relationship with your soon-to-be spouse. Personalizing your vows or customizing existing vows is a great way to do this.

Here are my top five hints and tricks for writing your own vows:

Something Old: Do you really want to use the traditional “Till Death Do Us Part” vows, or have a specific vow that you heard somewhere that you just love – but you also want to exchange personalized vows during the ceremony? It's possible. Talk to your officiant about incorporating the traditional vows elsewhere in the ceremony – in the ring vows or in “The Asking” (that's the “I do” part of a wedding). You can even incorporate them into your personalized vows.

Something New: If you get stuck on your vows, or are having trouble figuring out how to finish them, give them to some new eyes to look at. Your bridal party, parents, or officiant are just waiting to offer suggestions and questions to help you create the perfect vows. And, if you're choosing to not keep them a secret from each other, sharing them with your partner beforehand can often open up new ideas and stories that you may want to include.

Something Borrowed: The internet is a great resource for putting your wedding ceremony together. There is tons of information on vows people have used, as well as personalized vows couples have written. Don't be afraid to borrow liberally from these places – your guests will never know you didn't write it!

Something Blue: This is the wildcard – What do you love about your partner? What do they do for you that makes you smile, every single time? Don't be afraid to get specific with your vows! I've had couples promise to always make cookies and coffee after dinner or tolerate a favorite television show. Don't be afraid to personalize it!

Writing your own vows is a great and easy way to personalize your own ceremony. As I mentioned in my previous post, even personalizing pre-existing vows can help to create a wedding that really reflects who you are!