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Not surprisingly, we get a lot of inquires about invitation etiquette when we are working with couples on their wedding invitations. Because these questions are so common, I thought I’d share some of the most frequently asked etiquette questions we encounter. When in doubt, we often to turn to many of the same etiquette experts Kimberly shared before, including Crane’s Wedding Blue Book and Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette by Peggy Post. If you’re feeling lost, consider consulting a couple of different sources and then selecting an option that feels most in line with your personalities and your specific family dynamics.

{How can I include my deceased parents on the invitation?}
It is perfectly acceptable for a bride or groom to want to include the name of a deceased parent on their invitations and, more importantly, perfectly understandable. One thing to note is that you should select wording that does not give the appearance of the invitation being extended by the deceased parent. A good option is something along the lines of -

Jane Marie Smith
daughter of Mary Ann Smith and the late Joseph Smith
and
Michael Robert Williams
son of Mr. and Mrs. Donald Williams
request the honor of your presence at their marriage

Or this option if the deceased parent is that of the groom -

Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Smith
together with
Mrs. Emily June Williams
request the honour of your presence
at the wedding of
Jane Marie Smith
and
Michael Robert Williams
son of
the late Mr. Donald Williams

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As a stationer, I am often asked to guide customers through the sometimes daunting task of wording their invitations. My approach to invitation etiquette: know the rules so you can decide when to break them. It helps to have some time-honored references to turn to, as well as some fun vintage sources to remind you how much the “rules” regarding etiquette change with each generation. That said, here are some of my favorite resources, both contemporary and old school.

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